Choosing Lingerie that Fits for your Boudoir Shoot
I believe that body shapes are a myth. I appreciate those who use these body shapes as a way to help women find clothes that look good on them, but If something doesn’t fit, is that YOUR fault? Often times clothes are designed on a mannequin and not on real bodies that move, breath and live. So how can you blame your body for not fitting into a piece of clothing that was designed for a giant doll?
Clothes that look good on your body don’t have anything to do with your SHAPE and everything to do with the FIT.
How do we get around this while shopping for lingerie before your boudoir session? Know the importance of a professional fitting!
Client: I’m a C, but I must be a weird shape because my skin keeps coming out of the sides of my bra! I must need to lose some weight.
Me: I’m a C, there’s no way that you’re a C, time to get professionally fitted!”
*One week later *
Client: …So it turns out I’m a DDD…
It has been estimated that 80% of American women wear the wrong sized bra! A bra that fits can be the difference between loving the way you look in certain clothes, and never wanting to clothes shop ever again. When a woman comes into a boudoir session with three outfits and only two of them fit, I’m going to say that she should wear the two that fit. Bra’s that are too tight around can squeeze your skin out of the sides, and a cup size too big can make a woman with a voluptuous chest look flat chested.
You can get fitted at any lingerie and intimates store. They should be able to measure you and help you find something that fits in that size! Give them a call before you go and make sure there is an experienced consultant available to get you fitted!
It is also important to understand that a piece of lingerie can be perfect for one women who is a size medium with a 36C, and not so perfect for another woman of the same size. If you don’t love the piece of lingerie, then it wont matter if it fits or not. Make sure you are looking at pieces that make you feel excited for your shoot and that show your personality!
You can show off your personality through the lingerie you pick by choosing certain styles and colors. For instance, I tend to be very eclectic and bubbly, so it was no surprise that for MY boudoir shoot I chose a pink tutu with a matching bralette! I also brought a black corset because I also wanted to show my sexy side. Each piece that you bring can bring out a part of your personality and I love to see what women come in with!I love helping women pick out their Lingerie for their shoot. I will talk to you over FaceTime, or answer any texts at a moments notice while you are shopping. I will always give you the input you need to choose the perfect items. So shoot me a message on facebook next time you are not sure of what to get!
Choosing Outfits For Your Boudoir Experience
There are so many ways to figure out outfits for your boudoir experience that it can be so overwhelming! Conveniently for you, I LOVE talking about outfits and helping you pick things to wear that would fit your personality and make you feel your best! I wanted to share with you a list of items that you could use as outfit ideas, here are some easy pieces to choose from!
Bra and Panty
A bra and panty set is a great simple outfit, that you usually already have in your closet! This makes a great outfit and you can really show off your personality through the colors and patterns that you choose! You can also pair a bra and panty set with pretty much anything; a skirt, heels, a big sweater even! If you are a simple girl who doesn’t wear a ton of lingerie, this could be just what you’re looking for!
P.s. Make sure that you’re wearing a bra that fits right, it can not only change your world, but also your photos!
These are my absolute FAV. This is basically an outfit in one, and also looks amazing on everyone! You can get them with sleeves or no sleeves, all sorts of colors, and even in fun fabrics! This is also a great option for those of you who are learning to love their mid-region and still want to feel confident because it give you great coverage while still hugging your curves!
Nifty tip: One piece bathing suits work too! Most of the time you can’t tell that they are bathing suits, and there is a ton of variety to choose from!
Corsets are also an item that looks great on everyone. They are classy, elegant, and so glamorous. You can pair it with a skirt, or thigh highs and heels! tGetting a corset that is the right size takes some thought though. Make sure you have someone measure you, so that it looks it’s best!
You will definitely need help getting all the way in your corset. By now, I’ve laced up some pretty intricate corsets backs and don’t mind helping out!
Skirts or Shorts
These can be anything from tutus to high-waisted shorts for pin up shoots! Don’t be afraid to think of outfits that you love, and turn them into something a little sexier by using a bra as a top! For skirts, anything from tulle tutus to flowy boho skirts, it really just depends on your style! I love vintage petticoats, so I wore a blush pink one with a bralette for my own boudoir session! For shorts, you can use high waisted ones for a pin up look, or some torn up low-rise shorts with a white tank stop for a tom boy look!
This is the same as what I said above, this could be something that you would actually wear out, but with the sleeves slid down your shoulder it because a glamorous robe! This could also be that super slinky dress that you bought because you love how it makes you feel, but you don’t really have an occasion to wear it to ;). Amazon is actually a great place to find flowy dresses nowadays, for cheap too! If you shoot me an Email I’ll be able to give you some links!
Sweaters and Socks
Some of my favorite boudoir shoots are the cozy sweater ones! I think maybe because I relate to this so much and love cozy clothes to drink my coffee and do my computer work in! But I also feel like this is the sexiest time too, because you are relaxing and being completely comfortable with yourself! Sometimes if you can’t find a sweater that you like, using a big comfy blanket can have the same effect. This is also an outfit that you most likely already have in your closet, so it’s an easy pick!
This is so intimidating to read, but if you’re really feeling up to it for your shoot, these might be your favorite shots! I love nude shots in white sheets, it looks to natural and relaxed, and it can be a really fun way to end your shoot! This is not for everyone, but don’t be afraid to step out of your comfort zone! When you use a blanket or sheets, it might make you feel a bit less anxious while still letting you step outside your comfort zone!
Why boudoir photography?
There are other genres, kids, weddings, seniors, newborns, pets, commercial and many other genres of photography that you can do, so why did I choose to be particularly a boudoir photographer?
Sometimes I struggle with articulating why I picked boudoir to concentrate on in my business. I see beauty in women and it breaks my heart when they don’t see it themselves. I believe I can should any person what I see through my camera. Women don’t know how beautiful they are in their own way, not in the commercial way that we are used to.
So a part of my life journey and calling is to show them they are beautiful, for who they are, it’s that simple. I could do it with portraits yes I know, but boudoir is like the forbidden side of us screaming out to be seen, heard and loved. We never stop loving our bodies, even when we are 40, 50, 60 or 90. But the world have so much hate to itself and sometimes it gets to us.
But with boudoir, it’s a thrilling feeling when I show someone a side of them that they don’t get to see in the mirror. I’m growing up and I am still learning about myself and my need to make women love themselves and see themselves for who they are and love it. I think it stems from my own struggle to love myself and accept my emotional and physical self for who I am. No shame, no fear and only pure love. I’m still working on it.
I struggled all of my life with self image. I am like every woman you know, insecure about a part or more of my body. I think this security came from the media and the society around us, the image of young skinny flawless women (that doesn’t really exist) is what we should aspire to in their opinion. It’s hard to let go the guilt and shame of not living up to the image of what a beautiful woman should look like in this society, it’s taking me years to get over it. Part of me doing boudoir is to fight back. I want to fight back for myself, for my mother, my sisters and my nieces and my girlfriends. We are who we are, many sizes, many colors, many folds and wrinkles and white hairs, and we are unashamed and unapologetic.
Part of my job now is to be your mirror. Not the mirror that the world shows you and shames you for not reflecting its own thoughts of what a woman should look like, but the mirror who sees past all the lumps, bruises, distinct marks and past the fear in your eyes. I want to be the one who shows you your own sparkle.
The transformation that takes place during our photoshoots is the best part of the whole experience for us. When a woman arrives in our studio or shooting location which can be your own home, most of the time she’s nervous, sometimes even visibly nervous. Shaky hands and voices, sweaty palms and faces are things I encounter all the time. once they sit in the chair to get their hair and makeup done, the transformation begins. The client slowly starts to shed those signs and feelings of nervousness and anxiousness.
Then the shoot starts. The first set is prepared to get you all warmed up. When I show you the client the back of the camera after the first set, I usually hear “OMG, that’s me? No way! I love it!” As we go into the next set and then the net, the laughter and smiles start to come out. Then she starts to feel sexy. The sexy eyes come out and you can tell that it’s starting to click with them.
By the time we finish the session and go into the reveal, we’re friends. We’ve just shared an experience that they will always remember. We’ve laughed and shared stories about our lives.
Once I show them their pictures on the screen, their jaws drop. They see themselves like they never have before. This is one of the amazing things about boudoir photography. I get a chance to show them how I see them, how their spouse sees them and be their mirror. When they walk out that door, their smiles are so wide and they cannot wait to tell all their friends about what they just did.
A piece of my story
When I moved to the USA to study, I didn’t know I’m going to stumble upon photography classes. I fell in love with photography because it’s the documentation of our lives and many other reason. For now I’ll mention my fear of being in front of the camera. In 2016 I needed to create a video to tell my clients what to expect during their photoshoots. during filming, I was terrified of the camera, I was shaking and shivering and words weren’t coming out. Being for years behind the camera have disconnected me from myself. I don’t have photographs of myself for about 12 years. When I saw myself on the video camera for the first time, I was terrified of how I looked. I didn’t look 18 anymore, I wasn’t the 127 lbs that I came to the USA with and I had facial lines AND a double chin AND a wider waist that I thought I have! I thought I’m ugly and no one would want to see me in front of the camera. I judged myself very hard, I had to get over that. I kept shooting myself talking in front of the camera until I learnt to love myself again for who I am. And now I give speeches pretty easy. I can improvise and I can laugh in front of 5 or 500 people with no problem. Photography did that for me, it gave me back my confidence right after I though it stole it from me.
Boudoir photography Frequently asked questions
The thought of a boudoir session can be intimidating. When talking to women about their session, I get asked all kind of questions. So I wanted to share with you my list of the 12 most FAQs. The answers will give you some insight on. preparing for a boudoir session with me.
Do you share my images and post them on your website and social media?
Short answer: Absolutely NOT.
Long answer: Our #1 priority is making sure our clients are comfortable, especially with boudoir! it can be a life changing experience, but that also makes it nerve wracking. Sometimes, you are learning how to love your body and you aren’t quite ready to share the images with the world, or sometimes those photos are specially for your spouse and not for anyone else’s eyes. These are all great reasons for not sharing your photos with the world, and it all depends on your personal preference. If there are photos that you would like us to share on our website and social media, you can let us know and we will send you a separate model release. We will never ask you to share your photos with us, we wait for you to ask us, and we will never ever share your photos without your written permission.
With that said, I want to mention that my best boudoir work is the art that isn’t published on my website, it’s on my client’s bedroom’s walls, it’s in my client’s black leather albums and it’s usually for their eyes only. When someone tells us they want to share their photos on our website and gives us a written permission we are truly ecstatic, because we will be showing off the creativity we experienced with you during your photoshoot. Some clients opt to share the non-revealing photos and keep the others for themselves and their family only, that’s cool, we love portraits and non revealing boudoir, we think seduction is in the attitude now in how much skin we show.
What is your photography style?
My photography style is timeless romantic with an edgy playboy-ish twist. You can check my boudoir style and see if it fits yours Here
Do I have to wear lingerie?
You defiantly don’t to specifically wear lingerie, it depends on your personality. There are a bunch of outfit ideas other than lacy little things! Head over to this blog about choosing outfits to see some more ideas. Your outfit can range from an oversized shirt or sweater to a linen sheet or a blanket and everything in between. heck your outfit can be an ostrich feather. We’re here to play and create so please share your ideas with us.
Do you have payment plans?
We offer a few payment options. There is a booking retainer to book your shoot, and the balance is due 2 weeks before the date of your photos shoot. If you want more time to be able to pay off the shoot, you can schedule it a few months out, and pay it off in payments. Let me know if this is something you want to set up.
Do you photoshop my images?
I do edit your images. We enhance exposure, skin texture when needed, color balance and contrast. I do not however dit anything “out” that is permanent! I think it can be damaging to have a boudoir session done and then edit out parts of yourself that makes you who you are. art of the process is loving and accepting yourself for who you are. Seeing your beauty also means not photoshopping out parts of yourself you don’t like. If there are parts of yourself that you are leaning to love and you aren’t thrilled about at the time of your photoshoot, that’s Okay! We are skilled in corrective posing, and creative lighting to make you look your absolute best and bring your shine out. There are tricks to correct what you don’t like in makeup, using props, lighting, posing. We use photoshop, however, your photos are not for a magazine ad, they are a documentation of the sensual you and we will show you how beautiful and sensual you are without relaying on changing who you are.
If you want your photos to be sculpted and edited like a magazine ad, we can arrange for more editing time for an extra fee. The norm now is to document who you are without filters, our filters are our magnificent lighting and creative posing and we rarely rely on photoshop to change anyone’s image. Trust me you’ll look perfect straight out of camera. However, I understand we women have our own insecurities and I personally like certain parts of my body edited and my skin smoothed so no judgement here, we will do whatever makes you happy.
Where should I buy outfits
There are a few places to get outfits from and it depends on what you have in mind and on your style for this photoshoot. Here’s a long list to choose from with different style and sizing for your convenience: agent provocateur, Victorias secret, La Perla, Intimissimi, Adoreme.com Torrid. Eberjay.com Aerie, Foreveryourslingerie.ca, Beachbunnyswimwear.com, hipsandcurves.com, jasminestaceycollection.co. if you are looking for something specific and you cannot find it, let me know and I might be able to help you get it.
What type of print products do you have
We offer a variety of album and luxury portfolio boxes with. individual prints in there. The legacy box with the 8×10 matted prints are my favorite. I absolutely love the feel of picking up a physical print. It’s so surreal to see yourself in prints. I went through this experience myself and i can tell you that my photo boxes are the best item I have in my home. Those 20 glorious and glossy pages from the boudoir shoot that I flip through myself every chance I get. it’s a daily reminder that my self image has completely changed after having my boudoir shoot done! and I’m not the only one who feels this way, all the women who we photograph experience this metamorphosis.
Do you offer digital files only?
All of our collections include some sort of print product and the corresponding digital files. Any photograph that you purchase included in the album or portfolio box comes with the matching digital file in JPG format. These digital images are delivered in a locked online gallery for you to download and share.
I’m freaking out! how can calm my nerves?
Nerves are all part of the experience! I call it excitement. Excitement to finally reveal yourself and embrace who you are. I would be nervous too because it’s a very personal experience. The nervousness in the beginning of your photoshoot makes the speechless moment of seeing your photos for the first time so much better!
How many outfits should I bring?
This depends on your package. The blush Package is 1-2 outfits, the
Is hair and makeup styling included?
Hair and makeup is included in all of our boudoir shoots! I think it’s really important for you to feel pampered, and having your hair and makeup done is a great way to do that! Our amazing team can help you complete your look, whether that’s “I just woke up like this” or Full on glam! You can bring any ideas you want for your makeup and we can try to use it for inspiration!
Should I get to my shoot early?
You should always plan on getting to your shoot at least 15 minutes early so we can talk about your outfits and colors and set the strategy for hair and makeup!
All of your packages include a reveal session, what is that?
This where we show you all your boudoir photos! WOO! We hold all of our reveals immediately following your session at our studio.
When is my balance Due?
Your balance for your collection is due 14 days before your photoshoot.
Where is your studio located?
We have multiple studios around the USA in California, Chicago and NYC. We also have studios in Beirut, Dubai and Qatar. Depending on your location you will be directed to the studio closest to you.
Will Christina photograph me or is it another photographer?
Yes, All of the photos and videos are executed by Christina herself. We don’t use substitute photographers for our boudoir photoshoots.
Why you deserve a boudoir experience
When we get nervous, we make excuses. We can make up any excuse not to take care of ourselves and not to love ourselves fully. We all have busy lives, we are too consumed with work, we have someone to drive somewhere that we don’t wanna be… Sometimes it’s more important to spend time with your partner… We make up excuses like “I’m not photogenic” or “I wanna lose weight first” or “I cannot afford it right now”. I am sharing this to show you all that no matter the excuse, you CAN do it! Let me show you that no matter how you think of yourself, you are worthy of your self love.
“I don’t have enough time for myself”
It’s also important to remember that if you aren’t taking care of yourself emotionally, if you’re not blossoming and blooming, you’re not going to be able to handle taking care of anyone else. Which makes sense but it’s much harder said than done. Sometimes I am the WORST at attending to my own needs, emotional needs, sometimes I don’t even stretch for a full week, we all know how that end up feeling! I always give myself mental health breaks when I feel I need to stop and take a break, otherwise, I’ll forget what my life is about, I’ll forget my purpose and my calling and be consumed with life’s rat race, and I don’t want that! I did it in my twenties, now in my thirties I’m done with that and I’m a new me who takes care of herself physically, mentally and emotionally.
The reason I’m sharing this with you guys is sometimes I need someone to look me in the face and say, “SLOW DOWN, give yourself a break, stop moving, breath for a minutes”.
At a boudoir shoot you are able to breath, and able to love yourself for a few hours. Think of all the energy you’ll save on a daily basis if you stop comparing yourself to others, or stop worrying about what other people will think of how you look. You get to see where your beauty really comes from and this lifts such a huge emotional weight and prepares us for a healthy mentality.
You need to take time for yourself, why not spend it having an amazing time and getting glammed up for once?
“I’m not where I want to be physically / I don’t fit the media’s idea of a good enough size”
Did you know that the body type portrayed in advertising as the ideal is possessed naturally by only 5% of females? ONLY FIVE PERCENT.
I will say this over and over again (and sorry, not sorry if you’ve heard me say it before), but WHY do you have to be a certain size to LOVE yourself? WHY do you have to fit a stranger’s messed up idea of a perfect body to love your own body? WHY are you comparing your size to everyone else, when no two women are the same?
In my opinion it’s great and essential to have goals and want to get healthy, but does that mean you hae to hate your body to do those things? Absolutely NOT! You should love yourself every step of the way. Be porud of where you are so that you can be proud of where you’re going. Have a boudoir shoot to celebrate where you are now and have one when you lose those 15 Lbs to celebrate how far you’ve come!
How many times in your life are you going to be at this age? Looking the way you do now? I don’t believe in waiting for boudoir photos. If you happen to look better in a year, then good for you, have another session done. Within 12 months of your first session I’m giving you a waived session fee just because you feel better about yourself and you want to create more art of yourself.
“I don’t feel sexy or sensual anymore so a boudoir shoot must not be for me”
This excuse is actually the EXACT reason you SHOULD do a boudoir shoot.
Often times we lose touch with our femininity or sensuality when life gets crazy because of health/kids/work etc… there’s no shortage for excuses we give to avoid loving ourselves again is to have a boudoir shoot done to bring that spark back into us. I can show you that you have that sparkle inside you. You hide it well but not from me, and it might even ignite a spark between you and your partner as well!
Another thing to remember is that you don’t have to wear super sexy clothing/ lingerie. If you feel like this doesn’t show your personality, then there are so many other outfit ideas for you. I will gladly talk to you about them or you can check out our blog on finding outfits for your photoshoot.
“A boudoir shoot is an investment and I don’t have all the. money right now”.
Yes, a boudoir shoot is an investment. It is an investment in yourself. You are investing in your well-being and confidence as well. We do offer payment plans! In order to book your shoot, there is a booking retainer, and after that we can set up your payment plan for the remaining so that it might be easier to book a shoot! if you have any questions about your payment plans, shoot us an email while setting up your shoot.